Manufacture your own breakdown.

Because it's a proven fact that God shows up most in our lives when we're at our worst, in order to show us that it's ALL by His Grace--and because I believe we don't have to wait for a tragedy to strike or for something bad to happen to benefit from this principle--I reccomend that you, we, all, manufacture our own breakdown before the real one strikes, and in order to avoid the real ones.

How do you do this? You stop doing all those things that are driving you toward the breakdown. All of the fear based actions, all of the performance, all of the stuff you are doing out of guilt... in other words, stop all of those things that would stop when you had the breakdown. All of the things that are driving you toward the breakdown, and the things that fall away in the breakdown. All of the fear. All of the performance. Stop it all. Engineer a breakdown in your life on purpose-- a planned, calculated one, one born out of honesty, before you have an unplanned one.

Either way, you will get to the same place--the place where God is able to love you, and show you His grace. It just doesn't HAVE to be difficult and catch you by surprise. You can do it yourself, and receive the same benefits--namely, His love.