Why fear (and guilt, and shame, and condeming, etc.) doesn't work

Here is why fear, shame, guilt, condemnation, etc., won't work when trying to get people to change. It's because fear, guilt, shame, condemnation, etc., is what caused them to be the way they are in the first place. And when you feed a sickness with the very thing that caused the sickness in the first place, the sick will only get sicker.

See, nobody ever sinned except that they were never loved properly. "Sin" is what takes love's place. When you are not loved properly, from the moment you enter the planet, like we were designed to be... something still has to occupy that space...spiritually speaking. Pride is only a substitute for love. When you are not loved, but are meant to be, pride, (the false love) takes its place.

You operate best when you are loved. When you are not loved, you are forced to manufacture your own, for yourself. This is what pride really is, at its core. It is a self manufactured substitute for the love you missed out on. And you don't even have to think about doing it. You just do it by default setting.

And pride, of course, stems from fear. Because when there is no love for you, you naturally, logically, fear. And then you must DO something to counter the fear--which is the birth of pride.

All of this is to say that you cannot condemn people, scare people, motivate people (that only feeds pride), guilt people, or shame people into becoming better people. It will never work. Because condemnation, fear, guilt, shame, etc. etc., are what caused them to be bad in the first place. The only thing that will ever get people to change, anywhere, ever, is love.